Schilling wuchs in Berlin-Mitte als Sohn zweier Kartografen auf. Als Sechsjähriger wurde er von seiner Mutter zu einem ersten Vorsprechen gebracht, er trat daraufhin in einem DDR-Film auf. Später besuchte er das John-Lennon-Gymnasium. Der Regisseur Thomas Heise suchte in Schillings Schule Kinder, die im Theaterstück Im Schlagschatten des Mondes auftreten sollten, der damals Zwölfjährige absolvierte ein Casting und wurde daraufhin für das Stück engagiert. Am Berliner Ensemble trat er dann in den nächsten vier Jahren auch in anderen Stücken auf. Werner Schroeter besetzte ihn in Monsieur Verdoux, Carmen Maja Antoni in Der Ingwertopf, B. K. Tragelehn in Das Leben des Galilei sowie Stephan Lose in Kleists Prinz von Homburg. Ursprünglich wollte Schilling Malerei studieren, blieb dann aber bei der Schauspielerei.
Nach einigen Rollen am Theater spielte er zunächst in der Tatort-Folge Kinder der Gewalt mit. Das Abitur legte er 2001 am John-Lennon-Gymnasium in Berlin ab. Der Durchbruch gelang ihm im Jahr 2000 an der Seite von Robert Stadlober in dem Film Crazy nach dem gleichnamigen Roman von Benjamin Lebert. Mit Robert Stadlober zusammen drehte Schilling außerdem im Jahr 2003 den Film Verschwende deine Jugend und 2006 Schwarze Schafe (Tom Schilling und Robert Stadlober spielen hier zwei Berliner Studenten). In Napola – Elite für den Führer spielte er an der Seite von Max Riemelt die zweite Hauptrolle. 2006 bekam er ein Stipendium für die Lee-Strasberg-Schauspielschule in New York. Im gleichen Jahr wurde er Vater eines Sohnes.
Außerdem spielte er 2008 in Leander Haußmanns Komödie Robert Zimmermann wundert sich über die Liebe die Hauptrolle. 2011 war er als junger Adolf Hitler in Mein Kampf, einem Film frei nach George Taboris gleichnamigen Theaterstück (an der Seite von Götz George), zu sehen. Regie führte Urs Odermatt.
Anerkennung brachte Schilling 2012 die Hauptrolle in Jan-Ole Gersters Tragikomödie Oh Boy ein. Für seine Darstellung des ziellosen Berliner Studienabbrechers Niko erhielt er einen zweiten Bayerischen Filmpreis, den Deutschen Filmpreis und wurde für den Preis der Deutschen Filmkritik nominiert. Ebenfalls für diese Rolle wurde Schilling für den Europäischen Filmpreis 2014 in der Kategorie bester Schauspieler nominiert.
Am 14. November 2013 wurde er mit einem Bambi ausgezeichnet.
To the INFP personality types life is a long quest for meaning and harmony and their personal values are so important to them. This means that it is essential to the INFP that their beliefs and their actions are totally in sync at all times. An INFP is unlikely to take any action which they don’t believe in their heart is right. Yet there is a crusading side to the INFP which would surprise even those who knew the person well. When a personal value, or belief is trodden on, then the INFP can become outspoken and turn on the transgressor. They are so private that their values are usually well hidden so that other people may not realise, but the INFP becomes like a champion of the cause and will be expressive, animated and at times go for the jugular.
The INFP has two contrary characteristics, curiosity and shyness. They love to know what's going on, feel excluded if not kept informed but prefer to be more in the background and not wanting to be the centre of attention. The INFP always wants to be invited to the party - even though the chances are they won't show up. There is a sensitive, caring side to the INFP which means they will be see the interconnections between people and pick up on the verbal and non-verbal cues.
Sensitive, caring and empathetic INFPs are excellent in supporting roles where people have to be looked after - especially if those people are close to the INFP. Because it can take so long (if ever) to get to know the INFP, others paradoxically may see them as slightly aloof, as they engage best when they have allowed someone into their inner sanctum. Optimistic and extremely positive, INFPs are the ultimate dreamers. Forward thinking and focused, they love the possibilities that life might bring.
An INFP does not like to be categorised. They value their autonomy, and feel 'different,' and any system, (including this one), which tries to 'define' or 'explain' them would be denigrated. The INFP would say, 'You can't put me in a box, I'm different,' indeed they would all say this. Optimistic and extremely positive, INFPs are the ultimate dreamers. Forward thinking and focused, they love the possibilities that life might bring. INFPs are extremely future oriented individuals who enjoy flights of fancy and savour potential and the many possibilities unlike their ISFP counterparts, who prefer to stop and savour the sensory, real experiences of “this moment” to the maximum. The ISFP will look down, immersing themselves in actual experiences whilst the INFP will always look up and forward, dreaming big dreams and loving the anticipation of what might come.
INFPs have the ability to see good in almost anyone or anything. Even for the most unlovable individual the INFP can have (often misplaced) empathy and even pity. Their extreme depth of feeling is often hidden, even from themselves, until circumstances see them project a seemingly uncharacteristic impassioned, and extraverted, response. Of course, life is not always harmonious, so INFPs are not immune from all of life’s problems, frustrations and disappointments that we all face.
However, they feel a duty to a higher calling, the greater good. So, although essentially idealists and extremely gentle individuals, INFPs, when their values are contravened, can adopt a more strident, crusading ESTJ type of role, to sort things out, which will surprise even close friends who have only seen the gentle, quiet soul. But then, once they’ve made their point, their energies will be depleted, and they will disappear back to their own, quiet, introverted world of possibilities and harmony, often questioning whether they should have been so harsh and worried that they haven’t either shown too much of themselves (always a concern for the extremely private INFP) or, worse still, that they might have caused hurt to someone, which is never their intention.
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